Thirteen lessons, five parts, and a reflection workbook that keeps the work in your hands. This is the framework my coaching is built on — yours to move through at your own pace, for as long as you need it.
Queer Standards is the map I use in coaching — the same five-part journey my book is built on, taught as thirteen lessons with reflection built into every one. It is for the woman who has been living on other people’s scripts and is ready to write her own.
Full course access · $249 one-time
Lesson 1’s video is available now; readings and exercises are available for all thirteen lessons, with the remaining videos added as they are released. Look around the course
Each part is a movement — from one feeling to the next. You can start where you are; the sequence holds.
Part 1
Confusion → recognition
Name the scripts you inherited, take your power and boundaries back, and understand compulsory heterosexuality for what it was.
Part 2
Knowing your truth → expression
Move from knowing your truth to living it — your space, your visibility, your expression, on your own terms.
Part 3
Alone → belonging
Find community that actually sees you, manage relational drain, and bring your standards into dating and friendship.
Part 4
Longing → healthy love
Tell standards apart from walls, read modern sapphic dating clearly, and build toward intimacy that lasts.
Part 5
Healing → power
Integrate everything into a living blueprint — and a life that feels like yours.
The course is taught in lessons. The workbook is where you answer back — and the workshop is where the framework stops being private.
An interactive workbook for every lesson: record your reflections, choose one action to try, and return to your journal as your perspective develops. A printable workbook and the Blueprint PDF come with it.
I also teach this framework in a workshop setting — a guided session where the blueprint is worked through with other women rather than alone. Ask me about the next one and I’ll tell you what it covers.
Lifetime access to all five parts, thirteen lessons and every reflection workbook — for $249, paid once.
Lesbians, including trans lesbians, women who love women, and LGBTQ+ people are welcome here. This is an educational, reflective course — not therapy or individualized medical advice. You choose what you share and how quickly you move.
The course gives you the map.
Coaching gives you the guide.
A course can teach you the framework. It can’t tell you what to wear to your first queer event, which room in your city holds your people, or whether she’s worth texting back. I can. Coaching uses this same blueprint, pointed at your life — one hour to find your next step, or four classes to move through the parts with me.
A dedicated hour to explore your next step in identity, visibility, community, intimacy, or feeling at home in yourself.
Space to go deeper
Four classes grounded in the course framework, with space to revisit your reflections and explore the parts at your own pace.
Coaching is booked separately from course access. Not sure which part you’re in? Take the free reflection on the home page — it will point you somewhere.
